Course Content
The Theory of Love
About Lesson

Accepting The Contradiction of The Self

 

Contradiction is the most fascinating thing to me. 

 

We truly do have a problem with contradiction. It is the “Cognitive Dissonance” inside us. When Logic exists inside our minds alongside Beliefs and Logical Fallacy, Contradiction, in most cases, contradicts that Logical Fallacy and, for the sake of Cognitive Dissonance, we ban Contradiction in the Self and in Others. 

 

Societal Expectations interfere with “what should” or “shouldn’t” be. And Societal Interference invents Logical Fallacies and False Premise inside the Self, contradicting the Logical Comprehension. 

 

“But wait! I do that!” You may think, and so, your Subconscious Mind begins the subtle rewiring in your brain to alter your behavior to conform to the Societal Interference from Traditional Expectations. So you don’t get that tattoo. You hide the nose ring around your parents. You lie about what you do after work. You deny what you are, making yourself more invisible with each lie and secret to secure your Conditional Belonging among people who don’t accept the real you because, after time, they don’t even know the real you. You are an illusion. And that Invisibility begins to sink in. 

 

Contradiction does not sit well within our Minds.  It leads to a common aversion to Contradiction that creates Civil Divide.  

 

I will never forget the day my Grandmother was sewing a silhouette for my cousin of a ballet dancer holding a gun. 

 

“Why?” I asked. 

“Because Harley is both a Ballet dancer and a hunter.”

 

Swan Lake came to mind and the contradiction went to war in my brain. How? I could not comprehend. 

 

My Alters are the prime example of Contradiction. 

 

My family’s traditions and beliefs taught me that a “good Christian girl” could not love BDSM, Leather, or anything less than “wholesome.” 

 

So my BDSM Mistress became a neatly wrapped package of Leather wearing goodness. Likewise, my Hippie-Vegetarian Self was crammed deep into the 4th Level of the

Subconscious Mind as my 4th Perspective, Republican father spouted his hatred for “those damn Hippies.” And my Party-Lover, Booze drinking, Clove smoking Pompous Nord Lord, Bergen the Bard was contained not so neatly all over the place, while Joanna was the summation of an elegant, New York City Chic, Upper West Side Art-loving pianist and scholar, who my father deemed, “A Snob.” 

 

The result?

 

A Vegetarian hippie who drinks Guinness, wears a purple leather jacket, and dons a crown (literally) while rocking out to Beethoven and ballet dancing to Fur Elise. OH, YEAH!

 

Integrating all the parts of the Self is one of the greatest challenges to overcome while healing. As you heal and reunite the Self, you most likely will battle the Logic or the Logical Fallacies of your own contradictions. 

 

I will be blunt. 

 

At the time that I started this book, I was still trying to figure this one out. All the why’s and the how’s. Near the completion of the book, I realized it all is about Integration. It was, very much, trusting the Intuition to go where the Whim and desire led me, and being sure I didn’t “stunt” or “alter” my decisions due to fear or prejudice. 

 

It takes a lot of trust and practice, balanced Integration.   

 

One thing I do know, and I have the lack of my Multiple Mind to prove this: The Union Divided cannot stand. 

 

However zany, weird, odd, strange, seemingly illogical, and/or contradicting you may think it is, ALL of you must be welcomed back, integrated, and balanced. 

 

Most of all what you want and what is logical.