From The Self-Preservation/Self-Defense Family

Sad (From the Self-Preservation/Defense System and Love Family) –> A Temporary Loss of Desired and Planned Dreams and Reality. A Loss of Self.  Make a Plan. This is an Obstacle and you need to Nourish the Self and Plan. You may have to Learn and Problem Solve first.

Grief (From the Self-Preservation/Defense System and Love Family) –> A Permanent Loss of Desired and Planned Dreams and Reality. A Loss of Self. A Loss of Belief that you cannot have your Desired Dream, Self, or Reality. (Yes, you can. We show you how) Make a Plan. This is an Obstacle and you need to Nourish the Self and Plan. You may have to Learn and Problem Solve first.

From The Self-Defense/Self-Preservation Family

Annoyance (From the Self-Preservation/Defense System and Love Family) –> Stage #1. Your Logic and Safety, Your Perceived Reality is being Threatened. Use the 4th Ethic, Retreat, and re-evaluate your Plans. You need to “Retreat and Rethink your Safety Plan.” You should not be here. Unfriendly territory. Use “Annoyance” as a Red Flag to evaluate your Inner Circle and Environment. Take Action. Get to Safety. Learn and Plan. Navigate Obstacles.

Frustration (From the Self-Preservation/Defense System and Love Family) –> Stage #2. Your Logic and Safety, Your Perceived Reality is being Threatened. Use the 4th Ethic, Retreat, and re-evaluate your Plans. You REALLY need to “Retreat and Rethink your Safety Plan.” You should not be here. Unfriendly territory. Use “Frustration” as a Red Flag to evaluate your Inner Circle and Environment. Take Action. Get to Safety. Learn and Plan. Navigate Obstacles.

Anger (From the Self-Preservation/Defense System and Love Family) –> Stage #3. Your Logic and Safety, Your Perceived Reality is being Threatened. Use the 4th Ethic, Retreat, and re-evaluate your Plans. You DID NOT take Action and now you are at Stage #3 of “Retreat and Rethink your Safety Plan.” You should not be here. Unfriendly territory. You should have used “Annoyance and Frustration” as a Red Flag to evaluate your Inner Circle and Environment. Take Action. Get to Safety. Learn and Plan. Navigate Obstacles. Note : I was still getting Angry way more than I liked. I had to teach myself that “Anger” was “Too Little too late.” For this reason, I changed “Annoyed and Frustrated” to “Red Flags” because if I was getting to the point of “Anger,” then I stayed too long too late at a bad party. Furthermore, once I learned this, I noticed my “Internal War” — the one I didn’t even know I was fighting — came to a solid end. This is when I finally found Peace. By living on the “other side” of Pre-Annoyance instead of the internal side of Anger. Our Society teaches us to “Man Up” and “Tolerate More,” but this actually creates Desensitization that keeps you “in the War.”

Hatred : Post-Anger + Self-Love (From the Self-Preservation/Defense System and Love Family) –> Stage #4. Your Logic and Safety, Your Perceived Reality WAS harmed. Use the 4th Ethic, Retreat, and re-evaluate your Plans. You DID NOT take Action and now you got hurt because you did not “Retreat and Rethink your Safety Plan.” True Love allows you to bounce back and heal from Hatred relatively quickly. Narcissist Love will move you into a place of vengeance. Once the Narcissist learns True Love, Hatred will dissolve and Heal. Only True Love heals Hatred.

Distrust (From Self-Preservation System) –> Full Defense mode. This is where the Self goes when they shut someone out that they do not Trust. It means, “Access Denied.” Forgiveness is the only thing I know of that will reopen the Trust. Not even words can penetrate when there is Distrust. Shadow Work, which means you need to re-work your Logical Core and re-write your If/Then Clauses to redirect your Mindset… Logic is being used as a Defense to create a Mindset, to secure a certain behavior in you, to deny someone access, to create a Reality, to keep you safe. Discernment and Ethics have been abandoned for Weaponized Logic to “keep you safe.” But this is an Extreme “Fear Response.” If you want to Trust again, Focus on the 4th Ethic and Self-Trust. Focus on the 1st, 2nd, and 3rd Ethic to restore Trust. But it is the 4th Ethic — Discernment and Personal Boundaries — that will keep you Safe and also allow you your Freedom. Otherwise, Distrust becomes a Prison.