What a Healthy 2nd Ethical Perspective Looks Like : 

A Healthy 2nd Perspective is between the ages of 1 and 3. They are Helpful, Adventurous, and they ask “Why” all the time. Curiosity drives their Exploration. 

They MUST feel like they BELONG. This is the Ethical Perspective Where BELONGING is Nourished into us. We must have a Role in our Home and Community and we must be challenged, praised, and acknowledged for our efforts. 

We seek to gain Pride. We are in the Ethic of Self-Authority. We MUST discover our Self-Authority. This is the Trial of the 2nd Ethic. 

They yearn for the comfort of Community, but fall too deep and they become Locked and Enslaved by it and they never grow on to Self-Authority.

They are in the Indulge “B” Stage of The Learning Triad, which is where they were allowed to grow Bored with “A” and were allowed to exercise their own Power of Choice to switch themselves to “A”. This Swinging Pendulum from “A” to “B” is VITAL in Growth.

They Indulge on  “B” after learning Boredom in Comfort and have proven Victorious in Accepting their Vulnerability, which required great Courage. 

This way they do not fear Vulnerability and they have learned Courage.

The Trial of The 2nd Ethic

To set aside their Loyalty to Family, Clan, or God, for Self-Authority.

The Value of The 2nd Ethic

Family, Belonging, and their Loyalty to their Clan or Tribe.

What a Traumatized 2nd Ethical Perspective Looks Like :

If they were traumatized on the indulging of “A,” then they would Indulge on “B” in Trauma to Avoid “A.”

The problem is, the next Stage of Growth is the Integration of “A” with “B”… but if they are Avoiding “A,” then they won’t Integrate and will freeze in “B” until they consciously Choose to Heal this wound. 

Forced to Indulge on “B” and move into the 2nd Ethic would cause them to Embrace Vulnerability without Closing themselves to Comfort, resulting in always being “Open to Receive” and being Over exposed in Vulnerability.

As a result, they would have no idea how to “turn off” their Vulnerability. They are Over helping, over nourishing, constantly trying to prove that they Belong.

The Prolonged state of “Vulnerable” without Rest (1st Ethic) leads them to be overworked, over helpful, constantly seeking to be needed. Always exhausted. Never feeling like they belong. Burnt out and sensitive to everything.

They find comfort in a savior, a God, or a relationship that can “save them” because they believe “Love is Saving Others” and “Love is Being Needed” or “Love is Needing.”

They never learned “Self-Authority” because they never learned how to Grow on from Belonging. This is because they Moved on the 2nd Ethic without first Learning the 1st Ethic.

What Happened?

They were Neglected Physically and Forced to Grow up too soon. They learned Independence too soon. Too much was expected from them and their Acceptance was dependent upon how well they served others.

Symptoms?

• Borderline Personality Disorder
• A Self-Diagnoses of “Being an Empath,” due to the Heightened and Constant state of “Being open to Receive.”
• All the Symptoms from the 1st Ethic would Carry over as well.
• Anxious Attachment Style.
• Self-Harm and Risk Taking due to Prolonged Exposure in the 2nd Ethic.
• Stockholm Syndrome
• An Identity would be defined by a Religion, Relationship, or how loved they are.
• Loss of Self
• Stage #2 of Narcissism
• Codependency

How to fix this if it’s you?

Learn Objectivity. Learn to Close. Try Privacy. Stop Helping People. Become Selfish. You’re doing too much and you need to stop Saving people. You need to Prioritize yourself and learn Self-Nourishment. 

Then you need to learn Self-Authority and practice Decision Making and exercise your Power of Choice. 

Address your Slave Mind. Learn how to have a Belief without worrying if other people will like you.

How to fix this if it’s a Loved One?

Stop saving them and do NOT let them save you. DO NOT let them save you. Let them fall and burn. They must learn this. Show them that Love is Supporting you without Enabling. 

They believe that “Distance” or Separation means “Unloved.” They are overly dependent on people while also being terrified of them. 

These people must learn how to be alone and that being alone does not mean not being loved. They must go back to the 1st Ethic and learn how to Self-Nourish.