In the 1950’s we tried the whole “Stand up to Bullies.”

In the 1980’s we tried the whole “Ignore them!” This… did not WORK.

In 2024, we are now trying the whole “Argue with them!” Please… STOP doing this. Arguing with them is NOT Asserting yourself.

I propose we all ISOLATE them by REMOVING ourselves from their access. 

What we need is a “One-Size-Fits-All” Come back for Abusers.

What we need is a single, simple, shut them down once-and-for-all. Here are a few that I suggest :

“I’m sorry you feel that way,” …and walk away.

“The Golden Rule is not for [Bullies, Bigots, or Narcissists…] and this is me denying you access to me.” …and walk away.

“I don’t talk to Bigots.” …and walk away.

“I don’t talk to Bullies.” …and walk away.

“I don’t talk to Narcissists.” …and walk away.

“I don’t talk to people who lack Manners.” …and walk away.

The Abuse they gave to you is for YOU to process IN A SAFE PLACE.

News Flash : YOU ARE NOT IN A SAFE PLACE WHEN YOU ARE AROUND THE PERSON ABUSING YOU. 

GET AWAY.

Here is the thing about this… They ARE going to say something back… They are sore LOSERS. They have to write the Story so THEY appear as the Hero to themselves.

But YOU have already denied them access to YOU, which is what they REALLY want. Because what they value most of all is an Audience, a Stage, an Argument, Attention, your Time.

You must walk away.

When you are in a safe place, use the Forgiveness Process — YOU ARE FORGIVING YOURSELF FOR NOT PROTECTING YOURSELF PROPERLY — to Deconstruct the Trauma so you can learn and compose new Rules for yourself to keep you safe.