People who hide their True Identities from their Children are Ashamed of their own Identity and Behavior.
I am a BDSM Mistress. I did not hide this. Ever. Not at 15. Not at 25. Not at 45.
“Not Hiding” DOES NOT meant “Flaunting.” It means “Not lying.”
It means treating your Kink and preferences as Human and Natural and thus, are not anything anyone should be Ashamed of.
Embarrassment is the Fear of Being Seen (Vulnerable) and thus Judged and Rejected.
The Alignment is really “Identity +> Ethics +> Transparent +> Truth” … But somewhere in your Mind, you are restricting or preventing this from coming through because your Ethics and your Logic/Truth are in Conflict.
A lot of Parents have no idea “where the Ethical Line is drawn” between Education, Truth, Knowledge, and Ethics.”
The Ignorance + Fear = Extreme “Back-Against-The-Wall” Avoidance. Which is unhealthy and unethical as it Lies, Causes Self-Harm, and nurtures Ignorance in both Parent and Child.
Instead of Learning, we Avoid to “play it safe,” which hurts everyone in the long run.
What we are really talking about here is “What is the Ethic of Sexual Education, Nudity, and Healthy Levels of Sexual Exposure for Children?”
And by “Sexual Exposure” I am referring to “Kissing your husband/wife” in front of your Children or “grabbing your Partner’s butt in front of your children.”
I was part of one Hippie Group — A nudist Colony — where these Parents brought their Children. I talked to them extensively about their decision.
This comes back to “Is Sexuality Dirty?”
First, I want to make this clear, do what is comfortable for YOU.
Where I definitely draw the line is — first and foremost — Consent. If your children express discomfort, then respect their own expression of Discomfort.
Second, NO ONE touches NO ONE without Consent.
Consent is not just an “age limit,” but an Ethical Restriction.
I do not at all engage with anyone less than a 7th Ethical Perspective with Friendship because they lack the Ethical and Educational Knowledge TO Understand TO Consent.
I do not Sexually engage with anyone less than a 32nd Ethical Perspective because they lack the Ethical and Educational Knowledge TO Understand TO Consent.
In actuality, Consent is an Ethical Understanding. Not at all an Education or “Biological Age” Maturity. Which is why two 15 year olds are not at all treated with the same severity of Sexual exploration as a 12 year old with a 17 year old.
That level of “Disgust” you just felt, was your Ethics telling you that an Ethic is being Violated just at the Thought of Ethical Violation.
So Parents who are terrified of this topic, run away from it, turning Sexuality into “A Forbidden Fruit.” Now you have a bigger problem.
Unknown creates either Fear or Curiosity. Both — in extreme doses — is a problem.
This is all about — really — a Fear of our own Sexuality, and not knowing if we can control it, how to control it, regulate it, manage it… People who Fear their own Sexuality the most, reject it the most, control it, box it up, suppress it, and throw it away.
Others visit their Sexuality in Closets and behind the Closed Doors behind the Closed Doors, excluding even their Partners.
What we are really talking about here is Sexual Education for Adults. NOT for Children. How can Adults — who Fear and reject their own Sexuality — teach Children at all about Sexuality?
The more I dive into this World, the more I keep walking right back to The Devil’s Dungeon. Not at all in the BDSM realm, although that is definitely part of this, but I am referring to the entire Subject.
An Ashavana’s Reflections on Sexuality.
**Ponders this concept**
The Solution is to host a Sexual Education Class for Adults. It seems most logical to begin there.
Here is the link if you want to learn more on this.
As for you and your Children… You can’t teach what you know nothing about. You are in the same boat as your children.
For many of you, your Children know more about Sex than you do and your children can teach you a thing or two, most likely.
I am a Healed Survivor of Pedophilia Abuse. I am now 44 years old. I was raised in a Pedophile Community. I was groomed for Trafficking and was an Escort at 15 to 21 years old before I finally escaped the Pedophile who Groomed me.
If anyone has the right to talk on this subject, I do.
The Sexuality was not at all the Danger or Damage done. The Psychological and Logical Warfare that was done to me was. And that is the real Fear. People confuse Sex with Psychology because they have no idea what is really going on in the Sexual Mind.
To learn more about Sexuality, go to Triadic Healing Part #3