This Bypasses the Autonomy of The Self and really asks the Question, “Are you claimed Property yet?” or more specifically, “Is there someone in my way?” 

If they were thinking about your Autonomy, the real question would be, “Would you be interested in Receiving Me Romantically?” which is all about respecting the Individual’s Autonomy. 

If the Individual is not interested in receiving someone romantically, then it is irrelevant if they are or are not married to begin with. 

If they are open to receiving someone romantically, only then is the question “Are you married” appropriate to ask, which is actually irrelevant if  the person is Polyamorous.

Which makes the entire question useless to begin with… Unless the individual is only interested in Non-Consensual Romantic Pursuits, which they are which is why they bypassed the Acknowledgement of the Individual’s autonomy to begin with.

It’s simple. I don’t want people in my life who “friended” me only to have a relationship with me because when they realize they can’t, they’re gone. So why did I waste my time on people like that to begin with? If a stranger asks you “Are you married?” you know he’s only investing time into you to sleep with you/marry you/possess you and no other reason. 

That is what “Are you married?” means. 

Don’t allow it anymore. 

Deny Access.