Power Dynamics is something people really don’t know about unless they are a Professional Dom/me.
Seeing how the world moves around The Power Dynamics while Muggles deny playing BDSM is the largest “Jokes on you!” I have ever seen.
BDSM stands for Bondage, Domination-Submission-Sadist-Massochist. You can be one of these things, all of these things, some of these things to be considered “In the Lifestyle.”
Domination and Submission is a Game every single Animal plays.
In Math, we call it Tit-For-Tat Strategy. In Society we ask “Who wears the pants?”
Every time we see that Large, overweight woman with that petite, thin, man, we are looking at a game of Domination and Submission.
When you have two Independent people in a couple come together and they debate who is going to open the door for the other, we are witnessing to Dominatrixes negotiating for Power.
Every time you use Manners, you are engaging in the Game of Power Dynamics you don’t want to play.
Every Transaction, every Rape, every Conversation, every Handshake is nothing more than just a Game — serious and playful — of Domination and Submission.
And the Currency is Vulnerability.
In the case of Equal Footing, the Dominant has sacrificed Vulnerability to the Submissive to establish Equal Footing.
Humility is forced or Consensual Vulnerability. In a classroom, Students submit to the Teacher to learn. In a Classroom, Adult Teachers stand over sitting children in an attempt to establish… Dominance, which they believe will result in “Control.”
Manners are the ultimate Vulnerability. Respect for Vulnerability.
When you have two people come together, the hardest thing they must work out is the “Pecking Order.” Pecking Order is Domination and Submission.
And if you agree to stand on Equal Footing as Equals, you still have to decide who is the Dominant of Power in which subjects to determine where someone should take the lead. In those cases, the Dominant must then gift their Power in Manners and Respect to the Submissive to Empower — see how that works? — them so that you can stand on Equal Footing.
- Business Deals.
- Peace Treaties.
- Hierarchy.
- Pecking Order.
- Bullies.
- The Church and Religion
- The Law and Police
- Marital Couples.
- Twin Flames
- Avoidant & Anxious Attachment Styles
- Relationships
- Friendships.
- Kingdoms in International Trade.
- Abusers and Bullies
- Narcissists
- Street Gangs and The Mob
- Drug Lords
- Prisons
All of these are examples that revolve around Domination and Submission. In fact, until the Power Dynamic is defined and settled, the Interaction will battle for Regulation and Position until it obtains Domination or Equality.
This Power Dynamic is the Foundation of every Relationship.
Power Economics. BDSM. Human Circuitry. Emotional Transactions and Human Connection. All of this is the Subject “Who has the Advantage? Who has the Disadvantage? How Do We work out Who is On Top or How do we obtain Equal Footing?”
In order to understand this you must understand Batteries in Physics… Which are the same thing. Who has more Power and how do you distribute it evenly?
A Regulator.