Whatever It Takes
This is the hardest healing requirement to achieve. So many people begin their healing with this in mind, but many times, during the healing, as they begin to understand what this really means, they terminate their healing and regress.
This is why they regress.
Because what it takes, in most cases, is Self-Faith and Trust that you Can Save Yourself.
Whatever it takes means abandoning your God/gods and taking the Power and Authority from The Creator so you can save yourself.
Gods enable dependence and powerlessness because Self-Power and Independence threatens the need for them. Religion gets in the way of Optimum Mental Wealth.
Take your Power and Authority back from the Abuser because you can save yourself.
Cut out the Toxic, Narcissist Mother who has you convinced that “You need her” and that you are “nothing without her,” or that “You owe her” because “She is your mother.”
Cut out all “friends,” community, family, husbands, wives, lovers, boyfriends, girlfriends, children who are Toxic and Nurture your Submission so they can abuse you.
It means severing all ties to everyone who is in your life only because of the promise of “Conditional Belonging” that keeps you locked in a position of convenience for them so they can use you and abuse you.
Most people want to heal.
Most people will not do “whatever it takes.”
Because most people believe that they cannot save themselves.
Most people imagine their healed self, isolated, alone, standing in a barren gray wasteland. Healed, but having lost so much. And you must be realistic. This will be the case for a time. And there will be a period of isolated walkabout where you learn more and more about who you are. And then, you will find your people. You will show them your truth and you will attract them to you like magnets.
And then, being loved as your true self, with all of the parts of you visible and seen, so they will know you and still love you and want you, this is the moment when you realize that all the loss you endured during your healing was more than worth all of it.
For this very reason, and to ease people through this process and expedite it, I offer The Healing Garden Members the Network>Friendship>Dating Community within the Philosopher’s Club.
Learning Self-Reliability frees you from Dependence and Codependence and breaks the hold over you that keeps you loyal and obedient.
Many cultures, traditions, families, and religions condition us to believe that “Without X, we cannot.” Therefore, by keeping those teachers in your life, you will continue to believe that, without X, you cannot.
At the crux of Loyalty is one constant belief:
“I want to be a good person.”
“If I leave them, then I will be a bad person.”
“I don’t want to throw people away.”
“I want to give Unconditional Love and Unconditional Belonging to all others.”
If I leave them, then I too will be practicing Conditional Love and Conditional Belonging, and I will not be a good person. I will be no different or better than my abusers who do love me with conditional belonging.”
I will remind you of The Golden Rule.