The Philosophical Logic of Authority
Authority is the Power to Choose. It is the “Birthright of Choice.” I love this analogy.
If Authority is the Queen, the Crown and Scepter are her Power, and the Control is the consequence and result of her people’s submission to her law.
The Jester can take her crown, steal her scepter, and sit in her throne. A usurper can bind the Queen and throw her in the dungeons, but she is still Queen and the Authority is still hers because it is her Birthright.
The Jester can dance around her and mock her. He can sit in her throne and make jokes about her, but the Queen can still stand in command and lead her people as a Pauper. Because it is She who has Authority, and not the crown, the throne, or the scepter.
Another example.
Think of Authority as the Puppet Master. The Power are the skills and knowledge of puppeting the Marionette skillfully. Control are the strings and the sticks that guide the the puppet.
The Abuser will bind and gag the Puppet Master, steal the Marionette, but, lacking the skills and mastery of Power via Authority, the Abuser will manipulate the strings and sticks through unnatural Force to get the desired results.
Unnatural Control vs. Authentic Control.
These are two completely different things, and they command dissection and further examination.
Unnatural Control is the greatest delusion of Abuse that every victim must understand, for True Healing occurs in this moment. It is Assigned Value that the Queen chooses that passes her Power, claims her Power, keeps her Power, or surrenders her Power to the Usurper. Nothing more and nothing less.
What the Abuser takes from their Victims is Unnatural Control. But Authentic Control cannot be touched. It was never taken from you. The Delusion they created, their smoke and mirror show, made you think their verbal “sleight of hand” robbed you of it.
But look.
It’s still there. Authentic Control can never leave you. Never.
Upon her Choice, the queen Decides to Value the Jester, Value the Abuser, Value her People… and in so doing, in placing Value, she passes, keeps, surrenders her Power – her Natural Control – unto her People, the Jester, or the Abuser… And also, she reclaims it, takes it back, and restores it all on her say-so when she shifts her Value from the Abuser, Jester, People back onto herself.
And it is her Ethics that Assign her Value. Which does she Value more? The Self or the Abuser, Mother, Father, X? When The Self is prioritized or is Assigned the Highest Value, the Victim may be targeted, challenged, or compromised, but the abuse will never be turned into Trauma. And the abusive situation will turn into a Lesson between Teacher (the Abuser) and Student (the Victim).
Exactly like in Mathematics and Logic, Assigned Value gives the Variable power or “Energy” or “Charge.” Every time we are Abused, the Abuser only obtains Power over the Abused if, and only if, the Victim surrenders Power by assigning Value to the Abuser that exceeds the Value of the Self.
In all abusive situations, prior to the abusive action, another, greater, far more destructive abuse is taking place:
The Abuser convinces the Targeted Potential Victim, that they (the Target), has no Choice in the matter.
The Abuser convinces the Target that The Abuser’s Value exceeds the Target’s Value (most often in Intelligence, Skills, and/or Knowledge).
The Abuser convinces the Target that The Target is incapable of the Authority, Power, Skill, Wisdom, or Autonomy to access their Authentic Control to Change it.
In short, the Abuser convinces the Target to betray the Self.
Self-Doubt causes the Victim to shift the Value from the Self onto the Abuser because the Victim now Values the perceived Greater Advantage of the Abuser more than the Self due to the Victim’s perceived Incompetence.
The Abuser has attacked the Autonomy of the Victim, leading to “fragile” or compromised Authority.
Self-Doubt is the only requirement of abuse. Self-Doubt occurs long before the Abuser approaches the Victim. Self-Doubt or Self-Confidence is built, nurtured, and/or made solid by the Parent. Likewise, Self-Doubt or Self-Confidence is razed, malnourished, and/or shattered by the Parent.
Now, the Victim can be abused.
It is the therapist and the Healer’s job to teach the Victim that they:
- Always had Autonomy and the ability to Choose without the need or aid of the Abuser (You can save yourself).
- That the Authority, the Choice, to Value the Abuser is what “tricked” the Victim to surrender their Power to the Abuser in the first place while tricking the Victim into thinking the Power was “stolen” or taken by force, when, in fact, it was the Victim (through trickery of the Abuser) who volunteered to hand over their Power by Placing Value greater than the Self on the Abuser.
- Therefore, the Victim can reassign Value and take back the Power any time they so choose by simply realizing and recognizing that they have and did have the Power of Choice the entire time.
Re-assign the Value so that you, the Self, receive your greatest Priority so that no one, no abuser, through ignorance or malice, can ever harm you again.
To do this, Choose. And do not second-guess your Choice. It is best to make a choice boldly, proudly, confidently, and 100% wrong, than to make a choice meekly, shamefully, doubtfully, and right.
Right and Wrong do not matter.
The Formidable Commitment to that Choice does.