Blame is about avoiding Accountability. 

Accountability is the Reverse of Blame.

100% of all Abuse that did occur to you did occur because you allowed your Abuser inside your head. And you are STILL allowing the Abuser inside your head. Age, size, is not at all what determines your Abuse. 

You letting the Abuser inside your head determines your Abuse. And the moment you accept that Truth : That you allowed your Abuser inside of your head… regardless of the Reason, you are not going to recover from this. 

This is your Power. 

The Acceptance that YOU DID allow your Abuser inside your Head. Which means YOU CAN remove your Abuser… NOW. 

But not unless you accept what you DID do. 

When we are abused, it is because WE did not use Discernment to protect the Self. 

When we hang onto abuse, it is because WE protect our Abusers and Self-Preserve their Delusion instead of change our Loyalty to our Self. 

It is the Admission that we made a mistake in our 4th Ethic, which we need to fix… but we won’t do that until and unless we admit that we fucked up.