The Phoenix Cycle only occurs with True Love.

If you find yourself in a Break Up, Separation, or a No Contact Situation and you CANNOT get over the other person, you may notice yourself “spiralling” or swinging from “Everything is going to be great!” to “I’ve lost them forever!”

Actually… there is a Mathematical Pattern to this Spiral.

What you may be experiencing is The Phoenix Cycle.

Here is what it is….

Phase #1 (#4) : The Phoenix Stage

Stage #1 –> You have an Optimistic, Energetic Resolve to Love them no matter what! This lasts for about a week or more.

Stage #2 –> You feel Rejuvenated!

Stage #3 –> You have A New Independence and Strength!

Stage #4 –> You have New Wisdom about your Self.

Stage #5 –> You’re Confident.

Phase #2 : The Marathon Stage

Stage #6 –> Time Passes and you Endure.

Stage #7 –> You Persevere.

Stage #8 –> The Jubilation Dulls and the Wear and Tear starts to set in.

Stage #9 –> You feel yourself Faltering.

Stage #10 –> You Waver.

Stage #11 –> You Worry.

Stage #12 –> You Doubt.

Stage #13 –> You find yourself in a Battle of “Should I leave?” and “Should I stay?”

Stage #14 –> You find Fear and Paranoia.

Phase #3 : The Pulverized Stages of Dark Surrender

Stage #15 –> Then Absolute Grief.

Stage #16 –> Acceptance of the Broken Heart.

Stage #17 –> Pulverized Heart.

Stage #18 –> You Surrender to the Loss.

Stage #19 –> Your wallow in absolute Nothing.

Stage #20 –> And at the Point of Most Nothing, a single thought IGNITES HOPE and you have an EPIPHANY.

Phase #4 (#1) : The Phoenix Stage

Stage #21 –> Love is Reborn!

Stage #22 –> It’s like you wake up suddenly highly aware that “Oh my god! What am I doing!? I love this Person!”

Stage #23 –> You Realize that the Pain of losing them was ACTUALLY the Pain of Lying to yourself that you could not Love them.

Stage #1 –> You RESOLVE to Love them!

Stage #2 –> You are Rejuvenated…

And the Cycle starts all over again.

Now… with True Love, this cycle will repeat, Strengthening the Love you have for them with every Round and also making YOU more Independent and Strong with every Round.

The Pulverized Stages of Dark Surrender — The first time you got through this Cycle — feel like DEATH.

BUT… The more times you go through this Cycle, The Pulverized Stages of Dark Surrender will get less and less, leaving you stronger and stronger.

If you do not have True Love, then The Pulverized Stages of Dark Surrender will end the “Love” and the Phoenix will not rise. Only Love does that.

So here is my advice to you on this… If you realize that you are on the Phoenix Cycle, and you are adamant to get through it, use the High points in your Cycle to work on yourself, Propel your life forward, and manifest your Strength and Optimism for getting through the next Pulverized Stages of Dark Surrender.

But mostly, focus on yourself and getting the momentum to propel your life forward.